Demisexuality: I Am So Confused

The point of this blog is the following:

1) There is no such thing as "sexual privilege".
2) Cisgender hetero* people are not queer, whether or not they are asexual.
3) "Demisexuality" is a bullshit "orientation" that is nothing more than thinly-veiled slut-shaming.

I don’t believe there is such a thing as asexual privilege. This blog’s name (and the “Asexual privilege checklist”) are a tongue-in-cheek response to the “Sexual Privilege” checklist. I know no one is going to actually acknowledge that I said this — I’ve said it a million times before after all — but it’s worth a shot.

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September 26th, 2011 at 2:45PM

Demisexuality: I Am So Confused

demisexuality:

How does my identifying as demisexual offend or threaten you/your identity? How is it that I, a person none of my followers and anyone else who finds this tumblr have ever met in real life, am somehow harming you with how I identify?

I do not understand why people get so upset over demisexuality…

It’s because there is nothing special about “only being attracted to people you have a strong emotional connection with”. Giving it a special name implies that it’s not the default, average sexuality. Giving it a special name implies that “sexual” people are somehow different from this.

There’s also the fact that it misrepresents what sexual orientation is. The X-sexuality terms refer to which gender(s) one is attracted to — hetero-sexuality, homo-sexuality, bi-sexuality, pan-sexuality, a-sexuality. “Demi” is not a gender. “Demisexuality” is not a sexual orientation any more than being kinky or polyamorous is a sexual orientation.