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dragonhugsdeactivedgay-deactiva asked: from what we see, you feel threatened by identities of Aces who identify as queer
your logic behind heteromantic asexuals not being allowed to identify as queer is shoddy at best. especially since we have personally witness harassment of asexuals for their identity and their asexuality
we also hope you know that your blog has made a lot of asexual people feel alienated from the queer community, as well as just feel shitty for being asexual
try not to ignore the rest of our ask this time

I don’t feel threatened by anything.

"Straight people are not queer" is not shoddy, but keep on clinging to hope that maybe one day you can be ~*special*~.

And if I alienated some heteroromantics, then good. Because they are not queer.

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dragonhugsdeactivedgay-deactiva asked: have you ever actually heard an asexual do any of these things, or are you just postulating on shitty things to say?
because from what we see, you feel threatened by identities of Aces who identify as queer
your logic behind heteromantic asexuals not being allowed to identify as queer is shoddy at best. especially since we have personally witness harassment of asexuals for their identity and their asexuality
we also hope you know that your blog has made a lot of asexual people feel alienated from the queer community, as well as just feel shitty for being asexual

http://privilegedenyingasexuals.tumblr.com/post/6120395483/you-say-that-that-some-asexuals-claim-they-have-it

it’s still on the first page

is scrolling down so difficult for you?

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inspiration-will-come asked: Yeah, your blatant discrimination of asexuals is totally proving that they aren't discriminated against. *eyeroll*

Yeah, just like how it’s proof that men are discriminated against when women don’t let them into their ladies-only spaces.

[Picture: Background: 4 piece horizontal color    split with black, grey, white, and purple. Foreground: White guy with  glasses   and light shadow wearing  a sweat shirt over a button down and  short   black hair. Has a smug,  arrogant facial expression and crossed  arms.   Top text: “You are an appropriator too” Bottom text: “For using the #asexual hashtag when discussion [sic] asexuality.”]

[Picture: Background: 4 piece horizontal color split with black, grey, white, and purple. Foreground: White guy with glasses and light shadow wearing a sweat shirt over a button down and short black hair. Has a smug, arrogant facial expression and crossed arms. Top text: “You are an appropriator too” Bottom text: “For using the #asexual hashtag when discussion [sic] asexuality.”]

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Anonymous asked: "I do not think this makes me better than anyone else."

Clearly you feel you are above certain people and that it gives you the right to be a complete asshole to others. Maybe you should stop bitching about who can and can't be "queer" and what identities are valid or not and get a life other than trying to stir things up on the internet of all fucking places.

I do think I’m better than some people. It’s just that it’s not because of my sexual orientation or sexual habits. Hope that helps.

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Anonymous asked: It's astounding how closed-minded you are. And how venomous your attempt to turn the asexual flag into a symbol that would now be hated... if it weren't for the fact that probably no one actually reads your site.

You’re reading it right now, aren’t you?

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Anonymous asked: We have a hard time taking this page seriously, you're considered the biggest joke in the AVEN community. Thanks for all the laughs.

That’s okay, demisexuals, ~queer heteroromantic asexuals~, and “sexual privilege” are considered the biggest joke everywhere else on the Internet.

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gilgameshwulfenbach asked: Being oppressed isn't the only qualification for queerdom. Just because certain aces "pass" as heterosexual doesn't make it so; they're still a sexual minority and thus still queer.

Stop making this into a combination of Queerer Than Thou and the Oppression Olympics; it's not doing anyone any good.

Protip: I’m not the one making it into either of those. I take it you haven’t noticed all of the heteroromantic (i.e. straight) asexuals claiming they are queer and oppressed by sexuals (even queer ones)? Go bother them, not me.

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trisarahtopsasaurus asked: I've decided my last ask wasn't enough; I've got more to say to you.

Why the hell do you have such a negative view of asexuality? Based on what I've read, I'm under the understanding that you think that I think of myself as some holy, enlightened, pure, innocent, and superior being just because I don't experience sexual attraction. I'd just like to put it out there that I think that's pure bullshit, and I don't think that this website it an appropriate way to make your point. The Asexual Privilege Checklist is also bullshit. If I must explain why:

1) Slut is a term that can be said to anyone. Sure, it has a connotation to it, and sure, because I'm not having sex the likelihood of someone calling me a slut is diminished, but I don't see how that's different from someone who is sexual who is just not having sex. Celibacy and asexuality are not the same thing.

2) Celibacy and asexuality are not the same thing. You can have sex and be asexual, thus, you can be asexual and get pregnant.

3) Once again, celibacy or waiting until marriage to have sex and asexuality (or in this case, we can use demisexuality) are not the same thing. Demisexuality just means that they need to have some sort of emotional connection in order to experience sexual attraction. Sexual attraction does not mean that you are going to have sex with them. It means you are sexually attracted to them. Also, you can be polyamorous and asexual...

4) OK, like I said before, I'm not systematically discriminated against. Part of that could be because asexuality is still "coming out" if you will. Ask most people what asexuality is, and they haven't a clue. How can you discriminate against something you've never heard about? Also, asexuality is becoming known in a time that is supposedly a little less discriminatory. But really- what can you do? Shoot me because I'm not sexually attracted to someone? I guess it's just as silly as what already happens to gay/lesbian etc for having a non conventional sexual attraction. (Asexuality also has a non conventional sexual attraction...)

5) While this one is true, one can only hope that this will one day be true for the rest of the queer community. It's ridiculous that this is a thing.

6) Also pretty much true. But like I said before, we probably aren't as discriminated against because we aren't well known. You say "gay" around someone, and they can conjure up an image in their mind of what they consider "gay" to be. Say "asexual" around someone, and chances are they will try to remember back to their biology class.

7) Straight privilege is straight privilege. By being a heteroromantic, one is still straight. One is NOT heterosexual. They still have to face issues of their non conventional sexuality.

I guess this turned into a bigger rant than I expected.

I do not have a negative view of asexuality. If someone is asexual, good for them! I feel I’ve already made it clear what this blog is about.

  1. Fag is a term that can be said to anyone. Sure, it has a connotation to it, and sure, because I’m not gay the likelihood of someone calling me a fag is diminished, but blah blah blah wallowing in privilege.
  2. ok? I never said they were the same.
  3. Plenty of sexual people are only attracted to people they have emotional connections with. Demisexuality is not some super special queer orientation; it is the expected societal default orientation.
  4. You are so clueless it hurts. Being put to death is not “silly”. Go swallow a pinecone.
  5. I am glad you agree with me.
  6. The plural of “anecdote” is not “data”.
  7. I’m glad you agree that heteroromantics are straight. You’re the first one who has.