Privilege Denying Asexuals

The other problem with the terms ‘sexuals’, and ‘demisexuality’ is that it assumes there’s some kind of sexual norm - an experience of sexual attraction that is the standard, that supposedly differentiates some people from being ‘sexuals’. This concept of normative sexuality seems to be based on ideas that [people who use the term ‘sexuals’] get from the hypersexual media, which doesn’t accurately portray real life.

You have a disgusting amount of people agreeing with you

This is the most brilliant blog I have ever seen. Kudos to you!

Do you even know where the word ‘straight’ came from? It came from us. From the queer community.  At first it meant ex-gays, people who had ‘gone straight’, and then it just meant heteros. It’s our word, do you understand that? We defined it, we still define it. We said “straight” when we talked about heteros who were calling us f*gs and d*kes, and we say “straight” when we’re talking about hetero aces who are calling us trolls and haters and barnacles.  When you make posts about how “the queers will never win” we call you straight.  You are straight because you are hetero and you are straight because you are attacking us and you are straight because you will never bring us down.

I’m not saying you don’t have problems. Let me repeat that because y’all seem to have convinced yourselves we don’t believe it. ASEXUALITY IS REAL AND IT CAUSES YOU PROBLEMS. But you “queer het” aces on tumblr who have been attacking queers, you can’t pick and choose which of our words are real. You can’t have queer without straight and we get to say who’s straight.

We’ve fought straights for a long, long time. Do you really think, just because your internet buddies are giving you asspats on tumblr, that we’re going to let you demonize and dehumanize us?

WE ARE HERE.

WE ARE QUEER.

WE’RE NOT GOING ANYWHERE.

We are real people whether you want to believe it or not.  You are straight and you are cowards.

And to anyone else who is hetero* or possibly aromantic wondering about it.

Pride is a massive party in public space. So yes, absolutely come to Pride, have an overpriced frozen margarita, take home some tacky beads and corporate SWAG and be sure to cheer on the floats that are actually run by LGBTQ organizations. That is, if you can enjoy something not being all about you for one weekend out of the year.

But before you go, you should learn to honor the fact that that we have worked our asses off to be able to parade like this legally - it was originally an unlicensed protest, you know. And LGBTQ people in various cities across the globe are still up against by mobs and neo-nazi groups and police for trying to do the same thing. Look at what has happened at Belgrade or Moscow Pride on Youtube, for instance. It’s horrifying, and I remind myself of it every year to keep in perspective that for all its problems, we need to do this, and we need it to be as fierce as possible. Because even at Portland, OR Pride a couple of years ago, police did not provide adequate protection and LGBTQ people were bashed. And in London the year before, trans women were prevented from using the women’s restroom and one was sexually assaulted for using the men’s. We have no “safe space,” even in our “own” space. Maybe that will help you respect what is happening beyond the big party. We Really Know How To Party for a reason, and it damn sure is not for your benefit.